D-MER is physiological happening it occurs as a result of inappropriate dopamine activity when the milk ejection reflex is activated. It has a spectrum of emotions when it comes to D-MER.
Some mothers have very mild D-MER, often describing it simply as a feeling of ‘sigh’, ‘groan’ Or ‘exhale’. On the other end of the spectrum are some mothers who feel extremely intense emotions resulting in suicidal thoughts, thoughts of self-harm or angry feelings.
Most mothers notice it within the first few weeks of breastfeeding and for some it will be gone by the time the baby is three months old. For others it continues until weaning, regardless of the child’s age.
Some mothers find that D-MER gets less severe and slowly dissipates as the baby gets older until they suddenly realise they don’t feel it anymore. There seem to be no “norms” when it comes to this, other than that the older the baby gets (3, 6, 9 months and on) the easier it seems to be to manage it.
However, a mother’s D-MER will be harder for her to handle if she also has PPD or an anxiety disorder as well.
In case if you feel this way you can get help from your Lactation Consultant, they know exactly resources and ways to guide you well in this situation.
Note: Lots of resources available in Google, research about it.